She married Arthur May, a Post Office employee.
As a dancer, Heather was for a time a member of the Kiwi Concert Party and later taught dance. Her dancing was mixed with athleticism, which culminated in several gold medals at World Masters Games in the 1980s.
She died on 28 July 2013 in Wellington Hospital. Her funeral was on 2 August at St. Barnabas Presbyterian Church, Mana Esplanade, Paremata. It was a moving experience, with spoken tributes from a brother, from daughters Kim and Pam, and from two of her grandchildren as well as from several other people linked to Plimmerton, including neighbour Jenny Brash (former Mayor of Porirua). The final tribute, accompanied by a slideshow, was from former theatrical colleague Brent Jupp.